Reaching acceptance does mean being the kind of carpet that people walk all over. It is a fundamental attitude of mindfulness and is hard to, well, accept. It is often talked about in the sense of self-acceptance. I am talking about it in the realms of accepting everything, with all its faults, including yourself.
If I accept what I am experiencing right now and stop resisting the present moment, I can let go of a lot of anguish in my life and bring about some peace. It is soul-destroying to be in one place or situation and yet wishing to be in another, both geographically and spiritually.
We think of acceptance as a passive act. It is being done to us. Instead, consider the concept of accepting as an active decision. I choose acceptance; therefore, I choose to empower myself.
Here are 3 tips I have for stopping resistance and bringing more acceptance into your life.
1. Lose the judgment – of anything or anyone. At least being aware of it means you will then go through a thought process of checking on what you feel, grounding yourself in the moment, and through time, learning the peace of accepting that moment. You are choosing your reaction and it gives you empowerment.
2. Accept yourself- use some self-compassion to ease your relationship with yourself. Join the many people who know you and accept you for who you are.
3. Find the good – look for little positives, when you are mindfully accepting, as it flips your perspective on something you might not like. The examples are endless, but the trick is to become aware that you are in a “moment” and a choice exists between acceptance and resistance. Say to yourself, “I am here”, then find something positive, whether it is just the quality of the daylight or a pretty object in front of you.
I leave you to gracefully accept this quote from Nathaniel Branden:
“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.”